Unleashing the Power Within to Build Your Best Life (with James Elliot)

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On today's episode, Financial expert and Amazon best-selling author John Browning talks with James Elliot, Coach, teacher, leadership expert, podcaster and best selling author. James talks with John Browning about unleashing the power within to build your best life. Here are some of the best Takeaway quotes from this conversation: We are all different and there are good reasons for that. Don't let blind people proofread your vision. Can't never could do anything. Learn more when you Connect with John by texting "LIFE" to 21000 or GuardianRockWealth.com.

Welcome to the build your life podcast with John Browning. Build your life as a relaxed and unedited conversation with financial expert in number one Amazon best selling author, John Browning. John's the founder of Guardian Rock Wealth and serves clients across the United States. John's the author of the book build a life, not a portfolio, a guide to your financial future based on your personal values, which you can purchase on Amazon, or stay around to the end of today's show and I'll tell you how to get a free copy mailed right to your door. I'm Michael De Lan, your host for the next few minutes as we chat with financial expert and business owner John Browning. Hello, everyone of us. Is John Browning with the building your life podcast. Once again, Michael de Lan. We have we have got a substitute and I'm very excited this morning we'd have James Elliott. James, you are communications leadership, trust trainer, speaker, you're best selling author. I'll see the name of your book, which I really like, is unleash your power, not to be confused with unleash the power. With it right, and I think you even have the URL. Am I right? I have unleash your power DOTCOM. Apparently Tony didn't one or didn't mean it. So yes, I'm unleash your powercom. Or, James, I at leash your powercom. So it's I have that a hold. That one site. Awesome, and that's the best way to get in touch with you would be through that website. Right yet for the website on Lesha powdacom. Or again, James, Adam, leash you are powercom. Ye, all right, very good. And folks know how to get get in touch with me. Just text the Word Life Lfeed a twenty one tho, or go out to Guardian Rock wealthcom and hit the contact US page and there's all sorts of free resources there if you want to just learn without talking to me. But I'm free to talk to and James, are you free to talk to you? I am as well. I am a love talking to my people, I love serving and I love it. You're ailable to absolutely, absolutely, that's right, all right. So I am curious. The folks that regularly listen to this podcast know that I wrote the Gamzon best selling book build a life, not a portfolio, and that's what this is really all about. And Real quick housekeeping issue. This is none of this is investment advice. This is just two people talking to each other. Hopefully you get some great and valuable information. But when I wrote that book, the very first chapter in that James, was what does money mean to you? Yes, it's a good one and and that's really that that's the first chapter, because that's what the book is really all about and and it's kind of a weird thing for a investment advisor to talk about that first. But but I think it's the core, in the base of...

...everything that we do as far as planning on top of that. So I know you talk about some of the same things in your book and it's a thing. It's you know, there's that saying what you chase will run. So if you're just in it for the money, you're just chasing money, it's going to run versus. I believe in making a difference, impacting, being in service to others, no matter who you are, whether you entrepreneur, a business leader, a corporate employee, whoever you are, it's be of help, be of service. I love the thing about taking responsibility and and there's no you know, Life'est Fair, there's no fault avoid O. It's not my fault is take responsibility for what you want in life and then you get it, it'll actually happen. So I've honest. Exact same wavelength is you. It's and I love your build a life, not a folio. It's so true. It's so true. I mean a lot of people wait till the end of their lives to be able to enjoy their money. And I don't know if the statistic is completely accurate these days, but he used to be. On average people would die three years after their retirement at least, from trades jobs and blue collar jobs and and years, years a going white color stuff. So it's a shame. I believe in living life to the fullest and also, yes, saving for tomorrow, but also you being want to hike that mountain in your two thirty and fort is not in your s. So you do things now as well. It'll light you up and help you find purpose and meaning as well. And it's really it's really all about being purposeful, Yep, and planning, planning, what's your best life? But but first, I find that many of us maybe don't even really ask the question. And if we do ask the question, what does money mean to me, or what are my real values, what really brings me joy right now. We tend not to take the time, you know, and I was the same way. Yeah, I was working on Wall Street and I was, frankly, on that hamster wheel. I got up in the morning, I went to work, I went to the airport, I flew somewhere, I spoke, I managed portfolios and I came home, rested, got some sleep and got up and did it. A dinner watching TV made me go to the gym. And exactly was so. They've rins and repeat every day. Exactly. And and the why question never really occurred to me. And then when it did start to occur, I started asking myself that question instead of asking somebody like yourself, independent third party. You don't know necessarily who's on the other end of this podcast. You don't have any vested interest, because so many times we ask our brother, our sister, our mother, our cousin, our best friend, and I always say this. They said, don't let a blind person proof free do your visions. It's so it's so true. They're they're too close to you and they've been program with the same programming your parents, grandparents, religion, culture, society, News, had programmed them with. So you know it's not going to be a ideal. I will say piece of advice or our neutral or...

...bias lists. Piece of advice when, yeah, finding why are your purpose. I agree, because we're all totally should to do, we shouldn't do and can or can't do, and a good boy is this and a good girl doesn't do that and all this stuff and nonsense, and we shouldn't, shouldn't end up shooting all over ourselves. And that's one of my mentors say. But you're right, though, and it's it's talked to someone, talked I mentor coach, leader, someone else that is a bit removed from you. I think that is a really good piece of advice. And you know, finding that, that why, that purpose, that passion, that fulfillment, and connecting that with what you do at work, it'll light you up, it'll have you on fire at work. It'll have you unstoppable. I was getting up earlier and earlier in the morning because I was on fire on purpose. I'd wake up perfect. I know one need to do. I know my mission today. Boom, and I go for a versus sleeping in or I don't want to get up and I'm motivated, I don't want you to do it's like a day and night difference. When you're motivated, whether it's your own business, aside business, you the leadership business, your corporate career, whatever it is, knowing your purpose and and that passion behind it and how that translates into life. Great. You want more money work or in your business. Cool. What's it going to get? Is it time with friends and family? Is it more travel? Is a giving back which is hugely rewarding, you know, giving that money given that time. Is it? I don't paying someone to clean your house so you don't have to do it yourself, when you can spend more time happing people are mentioned. People, if that's your passion, or traveling, our gardening or whatever, but I think right, it's. What is that? I want more money. Great, we all want more money. Why? What will it allow you to do? I mean, is it rolling around in a bathtub or a swimming pool with a bunch of cash? Probably not. Probably not. Like what is that money for and what will let you up with? So that, connecting that to that is great, because money just such a broad topic and again we have good and negative connotations about money. Some good, some bad, some mix and otherwise. And money's this, money's that, but connecting your work and what you're doing with it with a bigger purpose and a bigger why and and in Trinically to you, with that every motivate you'd be on firing your work. Yeah, and I just a lot of a lot of this also involves planning and where you're starting from and then where you know, we're talking about where you want to go, but also like where are you starting now, and sort of the reality check of where we are. And another thing that I find that people talk about market risk and this kind of risk, that kind of risk, longevity risk, whatever the risk is, but what we don't hear a lot about is what I think is one of the worst risks of all, and that is procrastination risk. What do you think about that? I agree. I agree. Life, you...

...know, of life flies by. We can always make more money, we can always, you know, create more energy, we can do more stuff, but we can't create more time. That's the only thing. So I'm a big do it now kind of guy. You know, the best time to planetree was twenty years ago. The second best time is today, versus waiting and procrassing and and a lot of it is is is just unknown or fear the unknown that causes us to we don't we don't think, well, it's a good idea, I should procrastinate or I think I'll put this off because I don't want the money or passion or fulfillment or my own business or leadership or promotions. And then it's a fear of the unknown. And it is comfort with change, which which is I mean it's human nature to run from what makes us uncomfortable and we need to very consciously and go against the grain and run towards what makes us uncomfortable, and that's that's when we win grow. Yeah, I would agree. And and so many times I think we fear. Yeah, all right, it's just a fear. or it's going to take too much time, I don't have time. Well, do you have time not to exactly exactly, or can you afford not to exactly exactly? Do you have Tome not to? And I ninety percent of time I put something off and and then I go do it and I'm like, Oh my God, that was so faster that like the literally took me a few minutes or I took me an hour. I should done that weeks or months or years ago. It was so easy, so fast. When I actually sat down to do it and and and plan focus, I'm like, why did I not do this lifetime ago? Right and worrying about all? If I do that, then this might happen, but will it? You don't know. If you're he you know that's you don't all the time he's been worrying and and all that. Right it is. I saw I saw an interesting statistically recently, and it was a eighty five to nine percent of all the crap we worry and fear and obsessedince to voute never actually comes to, never actually happens. And so it's like, well then, if most of it never happens, why would you even want the stuff that does happen happen twice once when you're worrying about it your mind, and once what actually happens, especially if only ten to fifteen percent of actually ever happens. That's a great way to look at it. That's that's actually true, and I think we've probably spend a lot more time, although I'm on our head space, worried space, and just making ourselves miserable about it for sometimes years. All right, exactly, and it's DIS empowering. How if you're worried and fearful and in a bad place, how can you how can you do great things? Like a lot of mentors, you know, Tony Robins, Zig Ziggle, and a lot of people say, your success, a lot of your success, will be determined by your emotional state, management, the ability to manage yourself. And if you like crap but you do it anyways, or you feel the crap, but you, you, you, you get yourself in a quickly, in a position where you are on and you can, you know, pitch that person or that client, ask for raise, promotion, give that presentation or go on that day or whatever it is. If you can be on quickly and be at your best quickly and shift emotional...

...state, you're going to win. You're going to achieve great things. Versus if you're going to do that in a crappy state, well it, results are going to be crappy too. I actually have another chapter in the books called the snowflake theory, and it's all about how are all different and we all come from different perspectives because we've all experienced life differently. And when I related back to what I do, is my main thing, which is investing, portfolio management and all of that. That whole idea becomes many people in my field say field, say that you should take all the emotions out of investing and that's the best way to invest. The problem is we have seven billion people on this round thing we call earth that are all making emotional decisions. Right, you got it. And what is that right thing for you? While it's not necessarily logical, we're we have to stop this whole idea, I think, of thinking that we should be or we need to be one hundred percent logical because God made us emotional beings. There it should it's just a fact. And people can argue, but you know, they can argue all they want, but we make decisions emotionally. We justify a lot of wet. You know, all we have to the highest to go corporate board room and and and you know, board of directors. We make decisions emost it's a signed, a fact and we justify logically. So, you know, I fully support your thoughts. Are On your point. Is he it's impossible to take that out. It's impossible to take biases that were worth are humans, were humans as well. So and it's okay to be human. Yeah, agree, as a matter of fact, I would say, as Canada. Circle back to what we were talking about just a minute ago, is your emotions are powerful if you use them and pay attention to your state, manager state, and there are ways to do that that I'm sure you could talk about and then think how powerful you would be. Right, or what is that power within? Right, you exactly precisely and how powerful you can be. Yet manage your mindset, managed that the mental monkey and the Gremlin that are chattering at you, mental your manage rather your emotional state, and it's very quick and very easy. It's nothing complex or convolute. I this is why I love teaching, because it's way, far simpler, way easier to do into master than people think, and people that are in the known that know this is you know. You very quickly rise to the ranks of the elite and become powerful and unstoppable, and that way you get what you want in your life. You know whether it's the initial thing, is that business success or or work success and the money and the recognition, but then the real thing you want, what it leads to, is fulfillment. His life is spending time with family and friends or traveling or investing or giving back or or leaving some sort of I can see and and say,...

...how can I stand out? I mean you mentioned, even said Snow Flick through. I love you included that in your book because it's so true and I think I feel because at this happened to me. I was so afraid of being different, standing out, and after years of tormenting and things in school, you know, years of being different, and I've been afraid of being different or afraid of failing or afraid of what will people think of me? And it's ironic because the people we revere Elon Mosque, Steve Jobs, you don't Bill Gates, Oprah, I know Huffington, Brian Williamson, they all, they're all different, they're all they're all black sheep. They all went against the grain and I'm studed. They're all different and you know, it's that's who we revere and we look up to. Yet everyone's trying to be the day and saying and and and and not be, not be snow flick and just be a clone, which is a shame because that's not that's not a thing. Again that you don't attract people to you, whether for personal or business. Otherwise you don't attract people with with lack of ethicity or just by being the same and, you know, negating all the gifts we were given and all amazing traits. However unique we are. Even a few people don't like us are don't resonate with us. It's just it's interesting how we revere these people that are different, yet we're trying to be the exact saying by the same stuff, say the same words, act the same, be the same as everyone else, you know, and it's ironic. Is a bit ironic. And the other thing that we tend to think about these people that we revere and we say wow, they're amazing, is we tend to think that they were successful overnight, and I think it's I'm trying to remember who said it first. I'll get it wrong, but I think it might have been John Maxwell that said it. As it's those overnight successes are preceded by years and years of unspectacular practice and work and, frankly, failure. And I get that a lot too right. I get like I'm so ashamed I fail. Guess what it regardless of what it says on about everybody on Facebook, twitter or whatever, social media on or in the mainstream news. We've all failed, and sometimes spectacularly, raising and here and doesn't mean that you both are not start over. And just because you're fifty or even sixty, you name the age, it doesn't mean that you can't recover that whole can never could do anything. I tell my kids that all the time. Well, it look at Colonel Sanders of conducted by chicken. He what it was the aid, you said, you know, eight of his and the s when he started kids, and it's this, the hundreds examples like that too. But you're right. And a people so afraid of failing and getting it wrong or are being being being you know, someone else being riot or being told they were wrong or whatever. Are People, you know, laughing or whatever. It's a rot, though, because that's some of our best lessons. Are Some of our biggest failures and blow ups. I mean,...

I'm amber some of the things I've learned. Stand by my principles today. Some of the biggest blow ups and scrups, and that's okay. bigause fit, you know, failures, and I don't believe in failure anyways. I believe in growth and feedback and learn. That's what life is about. Humans aren't perfect. It's impossible. So I agree. I think we should embrace, I'll say, growth and learning AK Idier, you know, because otherwise, if we are afraid of it, we're never going to take action, we're never going to get there, we're never going to do things we need to do to make more money, to be better, to invest more, to have the money work for them, which is where you you specialize, so they can have that that work life. I call it harmony because I don't quite believe in balance. Sometimes I'm working two weeks straight without a day off, and then I can go on a two, three, four, you know, week vacation, or I can I can work from the cottage all summer or work from Spain for a month or two or Costa Rica in the winter. It's the harmony I think we need versus the actual balance. I mean some names you're going to work longer, or some weeks you're going to work hard, sometimes you can have, you know, Fridays off in the summer, whatever. It's all about that, that harmony. That's why I use that word over work life balance, because, you know, arguably, it may not exist or may not be ideal in an exactly roof cases. Yeah, exactly. Well, I mean, I think we've talked a lot about this idea that, you know, hey, world different, we're emotional beings. This whole idea that Uq in design your life around what you want and what's right for you, not what your brother, mother, sister, cousin a clear whoever that might be, says. It should be right. It's what's right for you and I would like to thank you for taking just a couple minutes out of your time to spend some time with us today on the building your life podcast and as any parting thoughts before we sign off here, and my one of my favorite tools I'll leave as a parting thought, is to write down all the things that's going to cost you, what you're getting, what you're not going to have or what crap that will happen. You know, and what you great things you won't have, like what's the cost or what's at risk if you don't take action, if you continue to procrastinate. Write a long list and it does something special to your mind and that way you can go out there and and and, yes, make money and do better, become more influential. That way you can and have someone like, you know, the John, have your money work for you while you're playing and you play enjoy life. You have your money work for you and always be working on yourself. I guess would be my last thought. I'm living proof that working on yourself you up and up and up and up and up and up and up in life, whether it's money, friends, relationships, more time, more time and focus, because I'm more effective now because I've done the to work on myself. It's just a been amazing to find ways. However you do it, you know, whether it's like with n LP or somethings I teach, whether it's with, you know, meditation, whatever is spirituality, religious and whatever it is, meditation,...

...you name, and Yoga, he's find ways to work in yourself and I promise you that will get you to what you want to be, whether it's more money or freedom because you have more money. Those couple, couple parting thoughts for you and proof, I'm living proof, that those two were working yourself and get would wording by winning with someone thinks about you. You know, you really care? In fifty, few years, will you want to look back and be like, well, it's a shame way to achieve the things I wanted in my life because I was worried Abo they thought of me. That would be horrible, I would be horrible. Yeah, and so many times as use. That's what we see, unfortunately, say fair, that's what happens a lot of times. Yeah, yeah, what's the word? Must a pleasure, John Takes. Let me do what I love. All right, thank you, and you know, I think we will. I am sure we are going to talk again. So I appreciate the time today. My pleasure, yours as well. Sir Take, are right, my bike. Money really is a big part of our lives, and John Browning can help you and your family learn how to keep money in the proper perspective. It's important, but it's only a tool that can help you build the life that you want. If you like, John Emilie a free topy of his book, build a life, not a portfolio. Go to John's website, Guardian rockwealthcom, and click the contact US link and send your request. John Will Mell a copy of his book right to your door absolutely free. Thanks for listening to building your life podcast with John Browning. Be Sure to subscribe to this podcast so each new episode will be sent to you automagically when it's released. Have a terrific day. Nothing in this podcast should be construed as personal investment advice and past performance is no guarantee of future results. Investing is not appropriate for everyone. There is a risk of loss associated with investing in the markets. No representation or implication is being made that using any methodology or system will generate profits or insure freedom from losses. Please remember that investing carries risk. Guardian Rock Wealth LLC and its affiliates are fiduciary investment advisors. Please consult with US or another experienced, qualified investment advisor before making any investment decisions and or trying to implement any of the strategies and tactics we may discuss in any of our publications or podcasts.

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